Climbing Out?

I spent this week trying to climb out of the negative doldrums I’ve been in. It’s not even the dog days of late summer with its lethargy and apathy. Astrologically, the Summer Solstice (today) is the first day of summer. Meteorologically in Florida, it’s been summer for quite a while, with one heat index this … Continue reading Climbing Out?

Emotional Regulation Continued

Because I am looking at articles about emotional regulation and setting boundaries in toxic environments, my social media feed continues to populate with these types of articles (thank you, algorithms).  I was also encouraged to (re)read The Four Agreements. You would think I’d read everything there is to know about this topic by now!  But … Continue reading Emotional Regulation Continued

3AM Tears

I woke early this morning in tears. And it took a bit to understand the why.  [This post is all about me, trying to work through those tears. Nothing at all about retirement transition, so feel free to move on! Why am I posting? In the hope that someone else knows that they are not … Continue reading 3AM Tears

Mentally Tired

The words showing up repeatedly in my morning journal these past few weeks were: scattered, frustrated, tired. I’m feeling mentally tired. I talked about mental load in a recent blog (link here - energy flow) and it really is weighing me down. I looked at the list of items I’m juggling on the house build, … Continue reading Mentally Tired

Power in the Awareness

I read the following quote somewhere a couple of weeks ago and it has stuck with me: “Unsolicited advice is just criticism in disguise.” And too often criticism has my inside voice shouting, “See, you are not good enough”. A couple of incidents this past week made me think about that and another thing I … Continue reading Power in the Awareness

Energy Flow this Week

As I continue to focus on resilience and emotional regulation, I keep reading things about energy flow.  Not just the idea of where “your attention goes, so your energy flows”.  I am also trying to pay attention to what increases my energy and what deletes it.  I’ve been watching my energy flow more carefully this … Continue reading Energy Flow this Week

Continued Effort

Every week I read many articles and blogs that come across my feed, from those authors I follow to those authors the algorithms toss at me. I tend to jot down notes to myself as I read these articles.  It’s interesting to see what my mind has focused on, looking at a couple of weeks … Continue reading Continued Effort

Mattering

The feeling of “mattering” is a new term I’ve recently been seeing a lot (probably due to a newly published self-help book of that title; nope, I have not read the book). I was especially intrigued as it relates to retirement fulfillment.  I recently came across a new site – A Conscious Rethink – that … Continue reading Mattering

Emotional Regulation Progress

As I continue doing the work of improving my emotional regulation (blog links here and here for earlier discussions), I find myself drawn to articles that begin to repeat messages.  Here’s some insights from these messages the past few weeks: A Sense of Obligation?  Recognizing if “you are doing something because you want to or … Continue reading Emotional Regulation Progress

You Are Good Enough

As I continue exploring recovery from trauma, improving my resilience, and managing my emotional regulation, it was helpful to see some different approaches to change my thinking. I was particularly attracted to ways to convince myself that “You’re never good enough” is a lie. Because a deeply-entrenched self-limiting belief like this one is a pattern … Continue reading You Are Good Enough