It is halfway through the year of 2022, and therefore time to look at how I am doing on my 22 for 22 Plan (link here – Jan 2 2022). As it’s also halfway through the summer (because in Florida, summer is full on by May 1), I have my “Summer of 22 Fun” list to review as well (link here – May 2022). Yes, I love lists! I feel like that might be announcing a major flaw (Hi, I’m Pat. I’m a list lover.), but I do love lists of all kinds and use them extensively.
As I started these reviews, I wondered, “Do I berate myself for lack of accomplishment? Do I celebrate what I have done? Do I re-energize things I really still want to do? Do I ask myself why this is on the list at all?” Yes, even more than loving lists, I love to think about things. So I’m thinking about how to use my lists better.
I do not want to berate myself at all! Lists for me are positive things. I organize my thoughts in lists. I adore bullet pointing items and creating list-like charts. I track things (another form of list making) – books read, new things explored, or recipes tried – so I can re-savor the moments. To help me feel organized and not leave someone out, I have lists of people to review for my monthly Intentional Connection set-ups or Fun with Friends planning. Lists are a form of structure… and yes, I am a structure enthusiast, too.
As I looked at my 22 for 22 Plan, there are actually over 75 to-do items listed on my longer copy! My Summer of 22 Fun List has 72 items on it as well (with only 39 accomplished so far this summer). Someone could look at all those items as potential misses (many of those items are really not going to happen) and start to berate. I am shifting my thinking and simply viewing them as possibilities for how to execute the idea – possibilities for summer fun, possibilities for investing in experiences, possibilities for intentional connections, etc. I’m going to look at these how-to possibilities as inspirations to reenergize myself for the rest of the summer/year!
Also, if something is not being done and/or not yet planned, I will ask myself, is it something I really want to do or is it a family/cultural/societal imprinted “should”! There are many of these items that pop up my lists – often in the areas of travel, volunteering, and family connections. It’s a challenge to dig down to really know what my authentic beliefs are. I’ve worked through the “you should continue to work in retirement” (aka you’re too young to not work and contribute in a second career). I’ve come to terms with the “you should be creative and take classes to develop mastery at something” (see my recent post on this topic). With my tendency to Compare & Despair and an inner voice that constantly tells me I’m not good enough, seeing other’s travel plans, volunteering activities, and family connections regularly results in those ideas ending up on my own to-do lists. These are areas I’m reviewing for “should versus real desire” on both my 22 for 22 Plan and my Summer of Fun list.
Number 22 on my 22 for 22 Plan is actually “celebrate the wins”! With that in mind, here are some of my year-to-date celebrations (with a few gentle nudges on re-energizing, and no berating!):
- On my New Experiences Tracking, part of the how in Invest in Experiences (#1 on my 22 for 22 Plan), I am up to 83 new experiences! WooHoo. Since many of these were Fun-with-Friends (and I was the designated planner for many – an important how-to), it’s a double positive whammy on Intentional Connections (#11 on my 22 for 22). It was nice to see a number of solo experiences as well – those are challenging for me (Courage is #14). Lots of new restaurants tried (#3 Savor Culinary Experiences!), and quite a few new crafting techniques. Crafting is definitely a big new exploration area this year – Get Crafty is number 19 on my 22 for 22 Plan and I wrote about it here (blog link). It was tough to pick my favorite YTD experience – I have to go with alligator & bird spotting in the Everglades on an airboat ride with friends – that just hit so many joy buttons for me!
- Being active is not only on my 22 for 22 Plan twice, it is also part of my retirement lifestyle vision statement (Active Body, Connected Heart, Creative Spirit, Contemplative Mind.) While there is always more I can do (bike rides and park walks remain on those how-to possibilities lists!), I am doing weekly Beach Yoga, weekly Zoom Zumba, and now bi-weekly Cardio Drumming. And loving it all! Plus I have been doing more of my far-off-friend connections as beach walks – getting out into nature, moving, and connecting – another multiple positive whammy.
- I’m doing well on Boosting my Love of Learning (# 6 of 22) with my tangent blog posts this spring (from cultivating an emerging feminine consciousness to goddesses and childhood abandonment), my books read (at 36 of a 52 yearly goal, a mix of fiction and non-fiction), and my new summer study focus. Getting crafty and being more active does take some time away from learning, reading, and synthesizing.
Lots of items on both lists are simply daily living – morning journal, daily gratitude, daily crossword puzzle, weekly blog post, regular gardening, savoring our view. There are definitely a few items I need to consider deeper on the why I’ve not planned, executed, or even moved the needle. Not the Big Challenge of getting hubby to organize, de-clutter and reduce – #21 on the 22 for 22 Plan was always a long shot. It’s the travel planning, the selling old things on eBay, the hosting dinner parties, and the get out on the SUP. I need to give more thought as to why these possibility ideas never turn into real plans and executions.
Net, it’s celebrate. Not berate.
Do you have yearly or seasonal plans/lists? And if so, do you do a regular review to berate or celebrate?
Picture Credit: photo from recent hike at Watkins Glen New York on a quick family visit.