Because I am looking at articles about emotional regulation and setting boundaries in toxic environments, my social media feed continues to populate with these types of articles (thank you, algorithms). I was also encouraged to (re)read The Four Agreements. You would think I’d read everything there is to know about this topic by now! But … Continue reading Emotional Regulation Continued
I woke early this morning in tears. And it took a bit to understand the why. [This post is all about me, trying to work through those tears. Nothing at all about retirement transition, so feel free to move on! Why am I posting? In the hope that someone else knows that they are not … Continue reading 3AM Tears
The words showing up repeatedly in my morning journal these past few weeks were: scattered, frustrated, tired. I’m feeling mentally tired. I talked about mental load in a recent blog (link here - energy flow) and it really is weighing me down. I looked at the list of items I’m juggling on the house build, … Continue reading Mentally Tired
I read the following quote somewhere a couple of weeks ago and it has stuck with me: “Unsolicited advice is just criticism in disguise.” And too often criticism has my inside voice shouting, “See, you are not good enough”. A couple of incidents this past week made me think about that and another thing I … Continue reading Power in the Awareness
As I continue to focus on resilience and emotional regulation, I keep reading things about energy flow. Not just the idea of where “your attention goes, so your energy flows”. I am also trying to pay attention to what increases my energy and what deletes it. I’ve been watching my energy flow more carefully this … Continue reading Energy Flow this Week
I mentioned a new site I’ve been exploring – A Conscious Rethink. A couple of articles here made me realize it was time for a new Possibilities List! [Link here and here] Both articles are worth the read if you’re in the early stage of retirement. I first explored the idea of a Possibilities List … Continue reading New Possibilities
The feeling of “mattering” is a new term I’ve recently been seeing a lot (probably due to a newly published self-help book of that title; nope, I have not read the book). I was especially intrigued as it relates to retirement fulfillment. I recently came across a new site – A Conscious Rethink – that … Continue reading Mattering
As I continue doing the work of improving my emotional regulation (blog links here and here for earlier discussions), I find myself drawn to articles that begin to repeat messages. Here’s some insights from these messages the past few weeks: A Sense of Obligation? Recognizing if “you are doing something because you want to or … Continue reading Emotional Regulation Progress
Trying to shift deeply held beliefs and behavior patterns is not easy. One of the tools I’ve used in the past year (or so) is a monthly “I Did It List”. It’s an attempt at a personal celebration of what I did (accomplished) in the month to shift the deeply-held belief that I am not enough. Someone … Continue reading A Mid-winter Celebration
As I continue exploring recovery from trauma, improving my resilience, and managing my emotional regulation, it was helpful to see some different approaches to change my thinking. I was particularly attracted to ways to convince myself that “You’re never good enough” is a lie. Because a deeply-entrenched self-limiting belief like this one is a pattern … Continue reading You Are Good Enough
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