Continuing my insights from the series of Coursera classes on Positive Psychology (link here), this blog post will share more tools beyond Savoring (link here) and Cultivating Positive Emotions (link here).
Positive Practice Tool: Utilizing your Character Strengths
Utilizing your Character Strengths is a significant part of putting Positive Psychology into practice. By focusing on implementing your natural strengths, you are more likely to experience engagement & flow. This tool has been a challenging one for me to implement.
The VIA Strengths tool (link here) is recommended for identifying your signature strengths. After you have identified your strengths, it is recommended to write down your strength stories, times when you used your signature strengths. (That was relatively easy to do but all examples were from my work life.) It is also important to understand how to balance your strength and not over use it. (Every strength has a shadow side of over-use.) You are encouraged to brainstorm activities, projects, or situations where you can use your signature strengths.
I was slightly surprised with one of my signature strengths being creativity. I am certainly not an artist, nor have any of my crafting activities really come to fruition. I dabble but have not found anything extremely appealing to continue. Understanding that my creativity was about synthesizing information and finding frameworks has helped. And, it was also pointed out to me that doing crossword puzzles is actually a creative activity!
I am still trying to identify non-work related activities or projects that will utilize all my signature strengths. And since perseverance is one of those strengths, I will continue to put forth this effort, which brings me to the next tool.
Positive Practice Tool: Goal Setting
Goal Setting is another tool for putting Positive Psychology into practice. Goals – both setting them and achieving them – can give you a sense of purpose, can increase positive emotion (pride, joy), can add structure to your days, can teach you to strategize and prioritize, can keep you grounded in time of uncertainty, and can connect you to others (shared goals). So many positive aspects!
Often people in retirement don’t want to set goals as it feels too much like “work”. But with so many positive aspects to goal setting, it remains a key tool in happiness achievement.
Of course, your life goals will be unique to you, but an important thing to consider when setting goals is to make the goal intrinsic. That means that a goal nurtures your psychological needs of 1) autonomy (you need to feeling in control of the outcome), 2) competence (you have mastery or can gain it), and 3) relatedness (consider goals that support connection to others & belonging).
Life goals to maximize wellbeing are activity/experience based (not things) – supporting positivity practice #2: Invest in Experiences (link here to full list). Also, it is important to acknowledge current life situations when setting a goal. For me, as I think about goals for utilizing my signature strengths, that includes my physical limitations as I age, as well as the pandemic situation we are in right now.
A recent read of the book Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway led to a Big AHA for me – Underlying my fear (my risk aversion) in activating some of my “life goals” is my lack of trust in myself, especially my physical capability. This awareness has made me start to look at how I can breakdown life goal activities into smaller, achievable steps, like increasing my physical strength capability.
Achievement of a goal can be as simple as checklists check offs! (I love my lists.) But I am also working on creating some more measurable goals around utilizing my signature strengths, activating my “someday I will” list (overcoming fears), and monitoring my successes in putting Positive Psychology into practice (increasing my sense of achievement).
Do you know your signature strengths? Are you setting life goals to maximize your wellbeing and increase your feeling of happiness at this point in your life?
I love the idea of considering autonomy, competence, and connectedness in setting goals. That takes some of the focus off of the achievement, and makes the progress…the journey…more enjoyable, which is what life is all about. Thanks, as always, for sharing what you are learning with us.
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Christie, I am exploring setting different goals (linked to strengths) and tracking them for my 2021 plan. I will see how it all comes togehter!
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Interesting about “goals” in retirement. I hadn’t thought about that as a concept, other than those which ostensibly make prior to retiring. But you’re right, Pat, that goals certainly don’t every end for anyone. That’s too bad some people see making them as “work.” – Marty
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As my hubby hasn’t set goals for himself in years, I kinda understand that mentality. I worry sometimes about him though, as all the literature supports that having goals leads to better wellbeing and longevity. I’m exploring how my little goals (like Doing 101 New Things – which I am not hitting this year!) fit with my life vision and if i need bigger life goal(s). Al least all this positive psychology stuff is keeping my brain active!
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Thank you so much Pat for this article!!! It’s all what I needed to read this morning as my positive vision of life was starting to wear off… It makes me go back on track. I hope you are well. Thank you again for your blog which is very inspiring and always rings a bell in me. Diane
Le dim. 29 nov. 2020 à 18:58, retirementtransition a écrit :
> patwdoyle11 posted: ” Continuing my insights from the series of Coursera > classes on Positive Psychology (link here), this blog post will share more > tools beyond Savoring (link here) and Cultivating Positive Emotions (link > here). Positive Practice Tool: Utilizing your Chara” >
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Diane, It’s been challenging to keep positive through the pandemic… taking these classes has really helped me refocus of the positive time and time again. It might be repetitive, but if I keep at it long enough, it’ll become habit!
Hoping to be back to FL in late December for a few months – hope to catch up with folks, safely of course.
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I took the strengths survey. The results aren’t terribly surprising but I need to study them more. Much like Discover Your Strengths that we used at work. These things always fascinate me!!
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I find this stuff fascinating as well! This is a link to a great article/list with ideas about utilizing your signature strengths. I found it really helpful.
Click to access 340_ways_to_use_character_strengths.pdf
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Thanks Pat. I’m going to check this out!!
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