I’ve been listening to a series of podcasts that talk about balance. Even worse, the term “perfect balance” was used multiple times. I struggled with why I was finding the podcasts hard to connect with and then realized that it’s the words – Perfect and Balance.
I am a perfectionist and trying hard to let that go. I am trying to appreciate the engagement in an activity without the need to have mastery (perfection). I am trying to accept “good enough” and not be afraid to try new things (fear of not being perfect). The word perfect has become a pariah-word for me! I realized that I no longer want perfection. I was a perfectionist.
For me the word Balance is an “OR”. For years, it was all about Work/Life Balance and I could never figure it out. It was all work; there was not any life. I had to learn that Balance for me is a seesaw – it’s either one side up or the other. I needed to completely leave work to find a life.
I am coming to realize that better term for my life is AND. The “&”.
This realization came with a chuckle. I’ve never talked a lot about my work life here on the blog, but for years I was a lead product designer on the Head & Shoulders global hair care brand. This brand has the “&” and we tried hard to communicate both the hair and scalp benefits (in some regions more successfully than others). I “lived the &” designing on that brand.
Like balance, an “&” can reflect opposites, and often is perceived as a choice between two things. Take care of your hair and clean your scalp? Tastes great & less filling? Masculine power & feminine nurturing? But often we want both things. Not one or the other. Not a half of each. Both.
I am trying to live a life of opposites! Not a balance between the two (which for me means one OR the other), but both, an &.
My life of &.
- Being & Doing – Being Un-busy & Checklists of Action Plans
- Structure & Spontaneity – A daily routine & the flexibility to throw it all out
- Quiet Contemplative Reflection & New Connecting Activities
No, my life is not a “Perfect Balance”. It’s an Engaging &.
Have you found any common words that make you cringe?
Picture Credit: Another Sunrise – this photo by hubby