Recently a blogger posed the question: What thing(s) would you really regret not checking off your bucket list? It made me go: Hmmm.
I am a planner. I have an action plan and check lists and daily/weekly calendars. Not everyone needs this, but for me, it keeps me balanced.
I’m a worrier; I wake up at night with scenarios running through my head. I believe that planning contingencies turns chaotic concerns into organized, more positive sequences. (My hubby thinks I just worry & stress out too much!) I’m actually not strict about adhering to the plan in place. I can move to Plan B or Plan C pretty quickly, especially given I’ve run multiple scenarios in my head.
But I do need a (singular) plan. And that plan almost always includes some bucket list items.
As I’m about to reach another major post-work milestone (our downsized move), it’s a perfect time to rethink my action plan and daily/weekly calendar. Maybe even update how I am manifesting my vision with new mantras/affirmations. The last time I hit a major post-work-life milestone, it felt anti-climactic. I’m hoping some intentional planning will avoid that feeling again.
In this plan refinement, one thing I’m doing is relooking at my Possibilities List.
- What thing(s) would I really regret not checking off? What on my possibilities list will bring me joy now? What aligns with my self-discovery – what possible adventures fit my conservative, mainstream, mid-west, structured personality?
- Why do some items on my possibilities list create a feeling of gut clenching? Is it just the idea of trying them makes me feel like I’m already failing/incompetent? Or is it because they really do not match what’s important to me?
It’s also a good time to re-look at what activities that I’ve added in the past 2 years – which stay and which go? Intentional choices and not just activity by default!
- Is there anything on my calendar that I’m doing, not because I want to or it’s the right thing for my life/my family, but because it’s expected of me? Or because I’ve invested a bunch of time/money/life pursuing that path and I don’t want to admit failure/it’s not working?
I know in this new (down-sized) space I have to create new habits.
- I have to plan new things to boost my physical activity – find a new yoga studio, walk the new neighborhood, explore the bike path (next spring).
- I think it is time to try some charity work, something I have not done yet in retirement beyond monetary donations. I’ve not ever felt a huge desire to volunteer/give back; I also felt that this lack reflected on me as being a bad person, a failure in the human race. So I’m going to intentionally try volunteer work this next year.
- I will be looking into exploring new interest areas from my possibilities list (like birding!) and planning our next big vacation. The downsized house is supposed to give us a higher degree of flexibility for travel, so I need to plan what is needed to make that a reality.
It’s feeling good to refine my plan and relook at possibilities. I’m excited because this downsizing move feels like a fresh start into making my retirement vision a reality.
What things are on your possibility list that you might want to kick-start?
Photo Credit: Tim Doyle – Lilac Roller, Africa 2017