Here’s a mini update of what’s going on in my life right now:
I said I would try and figure out how to post pictures inside my blog. Some regular commenters to my blog have asked to “see” the kitchen refresh I’ve mentioned. Hubby encouraged me to do the kitchen re-do I was talking about sooner rather than later. In one home I waited 10 years to fix the kitchen and then I only lived with it for 4 years. As we explored options, our contractor was happy to fit in an inside job in August. We decided to paint the cabinets versus replace them – COVID-cost and COVID-timing were both part of that decision. But all new hardware makes them look and feel totally new! Adding a tile backsplash, glass pendant lights, and getting all new appliances (stove still on backorder) has given it a fully refreshed and brighter look. (And no, I am not a good photographer – hopefully you can see past the bad photography!)
Before is chocolate brown cabinets; after is white cabinets with brushed silver hardware (plus soft-close closures) and sea-glass colored backsplash. Our main space is a large open floor plan room with the kitchen along one wall.
I’ve embraced my inner planner again. COVID case numbers in Florida are back down and I’ve decided to accept a bit more risk (booster gotten!). Plus, Red Tide has dissipated (not totally gone but much better). We are still wearing masks in most indoor situations (with strangers) and no big crowds for anything, but I’ve leaned into planning and doing things. It is wonderful to see the calendar getting nicely full – a museum visit, a live-theater show, a mural walk, Bunko Club, Garden Club, Book Club, beach time (walking, yoga, and shelling), and lunch & dinners out (new to me restaurants!) I am trying to be more spontaneous and to say “yes” when asked to do things a bit out of my comfort zone. It’s also been wonderful to have a few folks down here also be planners and invite me!
Release Compare & Despair
This remains a challenging area for me. I’ve learned my Compare & Despair has different roots deep in my psyche. If what I see/hear is what I expect based on societal expectations, it links into the what-I am-supposed-to-do-to-be-a-good-girl comparison. If it is someone I admire or like, it links to my wanting-to-belong comparison. If it’s in an area I think I should be doing more, especially if it’s part of my retirement lifestyle vision, it hits the ”I’m not enough” button.
Compare & Despair surfaced just recently in conversations with long-term good friends – KC’s philanthropy and KH’s creativity. In both cases I was able to halt the thinking and shift it from Compare & Despair to Compare & Admire. My most recent meditation app (new thing trying) says that becoming aware of the thought you are thinking and naming it actually releases its power. Being more aware of my comparison thinking is definitely helping me not be so hard on myself and to break away from my current self-limiting belief trifecta of “I am less than, I am wrong, I don’t belong.”
So that’s a bit of a mini-update of what’s happening in my life. What’s happening in yours?
Picture Credit: me – a morning visitor this week.