On my Autumn Bucket List was the item “be spontaneous”. I’ve been struggling with executing this action item. Is planned spontaneity too much of an oxymoron?
Trying to be more spontaneous meant less structured plans. And for me, that lead to more ups & downs of feelings of satisfaction. When I have days of inactivity, I start to feel less fulfilled. In the less planning on my part, I realized I was looking for the world to provide something – and that didn’t happen. I wrote in my journal I was Waiting For Godot, but then looked up the meaning of the play, and not sure it fits. OK, I’m not sure I get the gist of the play. Oh, Googling random stuff more often is one area I am being spontaneous, but it’s not very fulfilling.
And then there was some additional self-awareness: I’m a structure-girl and a list maker. I’m not a good solo-adventurer. I don’t have multiple hobbies to pick and choose between on a given day. Invitations from others to do things happen infrequently, and rarely on a “let’s do something today”.
So how can I be better at spontaneity? I’ve decided that I need to plan my spontaneity!
I am creating a list of things to do (tasks, topics to explore, projects to begin, pending chores, simple pleasures) to do when there is “nothing planned to do”. Including in that list will be adult playtime activities like coloring in a coloring book, doing a jig saw puzzle, or taking a walk.
So that this list is not just a random listing, I am crafting it to match my values. A values-based listing will help me continue to live the lifestyle I envision.
So now I have something to pick from when I need spontaneity.
Is planned spontaneity cheating?
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