“The best-laid plans of mice and men”… and apparently, retirement transitioners.
When life puts detours on your path, being resilient and adjusting is part of a successful retirement. And I am hell-bent on having a successful retirement. So it’s time for adjusting my plan.
What is the latest detour in my path? I’ve received a diagnosis of breast cancer.
First let me shout – early detection!! Because of being conscientious in my screenings, my cancer is Stage 1. (Ladies – did you get your mammogram this year? Men – your prostate screening? Everyone who needs it – your colonoscopy?) So my prognosis is extremely positive… it’s just a matter of being strong through the treatment.
So what’s changed on the retirement life plan? A bunch of half-made travel plans are cancelled. The plans for new holiday traditions and our open house timing (from the move) are going to the sidelines. Even my regular Fun with Friends planning is stopped. I had just gotten to the mind-set of accepting that being the planner more-often-than-not was OK – it’s a gift I’m giving to the others in the activities.
But, plans have a way of going to the wayside when priorities shift to self-preservation.
What has not changed – continued focus on what is important and manageable during this time – self care (how to keep up with yoga and walking, eating right, and being kind to myself), reading & writing (maybe time on my book editing, finally!), and even some light entertaining using that new kitchen. I will plan some quiet evenings – good friends will understand if I’m not at 100%, or barely at 50% even!
And I will reach out to others if I need it. So often others don’t know what to do, and at this point I don’t know what to ask for. But when I need help, I will not be too strong and independent and stubborn to ask!
I’m gonna be fine…it’s just a minor detour. I’m trying to stay with the positive attitude many of you have helped me learn to have in the past couple of years! And if I’m not as active (commenting, writing) in the blog-o-sphere for a couple of months, you all will understand.