I’m trying to talk myself into enjoying being a homebody. Obviously Covid-19 has made me one with our self-isolation beginning in early March. Seven months in and I really miss my “out & about” activities and connections with others. But I am trying to focus on the positive (putting Positive Psychology into practice), so embrace being a homebody it is!
Here’s my vision of a homebody:
- Gardening and growing your own vegetables. I do like gardening. It’s just that I tend to have a black thumb, forget to water, and don’t really like the normal weeding/maintenance. This week we worked on redoing the driveway (it needed a better base), putting in a side yard path, and filling in some more plantings. I like the feeling of accomplishment. Not that I want to have multiple yard big projects!
- Cooking. I am cooking more and trying to do one new recipe each week. I have had a low percent for repeat, though. (That’s a nice way of saying they were failures.) And most are not very gourmet either. I’m still on the “protein and starch” (new way of saying “meat & potatoes”) and maybe a veggie (or salad) approach. Or a one pan approach. I’m not pushing myself to use new ingredients, more veggies (have not bought any fall squash!), complicated techniques, nor perfecting a signature dish. Can I even claim cooking as a hobby?
- Crafts. I have not picked up my new cross-stitch even though I have it on my to-do list. Other crafts have had a similar fate – jewelry making, origami, rock painting. Lots of intention and no follow-through.
- Clean, clutter-free house. I live with someone whose philosophy is “every horizontal surface is designed to be piled upon”. And then there is the challenge of the half-move – boxes of things we don’t know where they will go because cabinets and bookcases have not been moved down. Am I embarrassed when people stop by to visit? Yeah. (Luckily with Covid-19 I can avoid inviting them inside and take them around to the patio!) I’m starting to realize I will never live in a home that looks magazine worthy.
- Jig saw puzzles. Yes, I started the pandemic strong (in Ohio), doing a few 1000 piece puzzles. Now the same puzzle has been on the puzzle table (here in Florida) for over a year.
- Reading. Here I do OK, because I’ve always liked to read. I tend to like happy endings though and so much current literature does not have any closure, much less a happy one. I really dislike when I turn the page looking for the next paragraph and the book is over! So, it’s back to “light” reading – romances and detective novels!
- Exercise. You would think I could get in the habit on this element, as there is lots of available time right now. But I’m hit and miss on my daily movement and I’ve fallen into no routine at all. I see other (homebody) folks doing daily walks/hikes but cannot seem to figure out how to motivate myself here!
- On-line connections. Some of my friends talk about regular zoom connects with friends and family – playing games on those calls, long conversations, sharing meals, even family photo projects. I’m intentionally planning one on-line connect per week, usually with wine – my new whine & wine. Just one, but at least I am doing it. I am also taking on-line courses. Not intensive courses, not on multiple topics, and not learning new skills (no language, flower design, or painting), but I am signing up for a new class every time I finish my latest one.
I recognize I’m being hard on myself, and doing a lot of Compare & Despair. But I do not feel like I am quite yet embracing being a homebody! However, putting it down on paper has allowed me to recognize the things I am doing to embrace being a homebody, including daily journaling, daily crossword, regular yoga, an attempt at regular blogging, and spending more time outside enjoying nature (including seeing some sunrises).
I’m thinking my vision for “what is a homebody” might need to be modified! How would you define it?
Picture credit: me. A sunrise this week.