With the first step of our multi-step move plan underway, it’s been a hectic couple of weeks. So this post is just a sampling of things I’ve been musing on this month.
An article I read on hobbies reminded me it’s probably time to do a “where is your time spent” reality check versus my value-based retirement life vision statement. I’ve wanted to establish a creative habit and the article was inspirational in that sense. A few of my take-away points:
- It recommended looking at time not daily, but weekly. There are 168 hours in a week. How many hours am I spending sleeping (targeting the 8 hours per night I know my body does need!), exercising (OTF, yoga, walking), doing personal care, journaling, reading, blogging, chores (paying bills, cleaning, etc.). Last time I checked where my time was really spent, I was surprised how much time I was “wasting” in mindless social media and it spurred me to reduce it. I am sure I can find 4-5 hours for a “creative pursuit” hobby!
- Hobby time is not about over scheduling. The article encourages one to keep scheduling hobby-time loose and not make it feel like “work”. Hobbies are different than interests also. Interests are areas to learn about. But, hobbies require commitment and action, as well as interest. It could be learning a new skill, collecting something, or creating something. There is a sense of getting more proficient or growing in the hobby area.
- Think about setting up your hobby space, even if it’s just a section in a closet. Every hobby has something required to maintain it, from craft supplies to musical instruments to books to sports equipment. Make it accessible. As we move into our new space, I need to think about this!
The list of possible hobbies made me realize that I do have some hobbies already. Some other hobby areas that sparked to me: sports, music, dance, crafts, painting, cooking, birding, etc. Blogging (writing) is definitely a current hobby. Yoga is also a hobby. Lately OrangeTheory is part of my exercise hobby. I want to engage in more cooking and stand-up paddling. And I definitely want to explore more creative hobbies as part of my 2020 plans, so this article was a nice inspirational push.
Christmas is an obvious gifting time. A couple of recent friend interactions reminded me that gifting is NOT one of my easy “love languages” and I need to remember that it IS for a couple of my friends.
If you’re not familiar with Love Languages, it’s a concept that has helped me better understand my loved ones. There’s a ton of info on line, but the basic concept is there are five primary ways that individuals express love and/or appreciation. Most of us have 1-2 dominant ones and don’t necessarily recognize the others are expressions of love/appreciation. They are, simplistically: 1) words, 2) touch, 3) acts, 4) time, and 5) gifts. My dominant ones are time and touch, with words pretty high up as well. My husband’s dominant one’s are acts and time. One of my mom’s dominant one’s is also acts; when mom & hubby are together, it is always a fight as to who will do the dishes! But gifting is my lowest, by far. Even at Christmas, the only gift giving I think about is for young kids – my nieces & nephews, my godchild – because they are kids and that’s what Christmas is about for them.
I realized over this holiday that I have 2 friends who have gifts as their dominant one. I already knew about 2 other friends who have gifts as a dominant language, but this was new learning on two others. I received Christmas gifts from them and I did not have a gift to give them… Ouch. Now, I’m trying to figure out how to rectify this. Yes, I thanked them (words), but I’m feeling like I missed the boat on expressing appreciation of them!
My yearly horoscope encouraged me to organize everything from my closet to my calendar, to scale back care-taking, and get creative. Then, Joanne Franchina at Inner Compass said, “Make room for the things you want in life by letting go of things you no longer need – like resentment, regrets… or clutter.” Moving into our new home had me buying all kinds of bins and basket and storage organizers. And then finally, taking a quiz that was floating around, my Lifestyle Living is apparently “Organized Chaos”!
While I am definitely working on releasing resentment and self-limiting beliefs, I realized I am OK with a bit of chaos, clutter, and complexity. This is probably a good thing, since I am living with a borderline hoarder who firmly believes every horizontal surface is designed to be pilled-upon and if one of something is good, 5 would be better.
My organization (full of lists and journals) is probably complex to others, but it works for me.
- I created a 20 for 2020 yearly list to help me accomplish my goal of Release. My seasonal lists focus on my 4 vision areas of active, connected, creative, and contemplative. I use Vision Boards for visual reminders and do Tarot Card readings to re-motivate myself.
- I’ve got a daily “Bullet Journal” with lists full of to-do tasks, commitments, and intentions—things I must get done or would like to accomplish including ideas for the future. I check off items, which gives me a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. I’m stealing ideas from other people’s 20 for 2020 lists and adding onto my to-do lists: create 3 playful projects, get a shingles vaccine, digitize our photos, create a charitable fund, and make drinking more water and eating more veggies a habit.
- I keep track of a New Things (my 2020 goal is 101 things, again). I’m adding a Books Read List this year (my goal is 52 books).
- My Morning Journal habit provides me with a daily active meditation, which could involve writing out frustrations, body scans, emotional assessment, or dream journaling.
- I also have an Inspirational Journal where I capture ideas for blogs. And I will be using another journal this year for my Release activities.
So, Organized Chaos is my new lifestyle term – I work towards organization but with a bit of clutter and complexity!
What has gotten you musing this month?