Am I a “different me” in retirement?
A while back, a FIRE blogger (Ms ONL) contemplated if she would fundamentally change in retirement. I initially commented to her that you are the same person after you retire that you were before. I pointed out to her that I had the same core values, the same bad habits, and the same fears.
But recently I’ve come to the conclusion that I am not the same person I was 3 years ago. I have changed. And that’s a good thing.
J & L, two good friend who I worked with for years, both recently commented how much different I am, how I am much more positive. It was a conscious decision (and a continual work in progress) to become more positive. In the past I was a cynical, half-glass-empty, plan for the worst-case person. I came to the point that I did not like that about myself; I wanted to be happier and to find joy in my life. I started to regularly practice positivity (using multiple tools) and I was pleased to hear that people who’ve known me a long time have noticed it! (And noticed in a positive way).
C, another recently retired friend, also commented how she was no longer who she used to be. Between empty nesting, surviving cancer, and facing the end of her career, everything she was, was no longer. Everything from her identity to her body had changed. And for a while she had no idea who she was becoming either! “I’m no longer blonde and skinny (after the cancer treatments and long term meds). I’m no longer needed (as a daily care mom). I’ve reached the end of a great career and have no desire to update my skills to keep doing that. It took awhile to figure out who I was becoming.” She was great before, and she is definitely a different person now. And she loves where she is right now.
So, am I a different person in retirement? Yes I am. Perhaps you will be also. How did I change?
- I clarified my core values and confirmed they are mine and are not just societal expectations.
- I am working on breaking bad habits and actively trying to conquer old fears.
- I am choosing to be positive about life.
I am different and it’s in a good way. I’m becoming the Me I want to be.
Do you feel you are a different person in retirement? How have you changed?
Picture Credit: Me! African Safari Sunset 2017