I scroll Facebook a couple of times a day. (Please don’t judge me!) I enjoy catching up with my friend’s activities & travels, seeing notifications for upcoming events, learning about local places, and reading the positive memes and stories. I often will link onto an article for deeper reading. I’ve started jotting down some of the quotes I come across and thought to share some from the past couple of weeks. Most of my quotes tend to be in the area of personal development!
I noticed in this current listing (besides that I have no reference for the quote, nor even recall if it’s a direct quote or my paraphrase!): You can tell where my need for encouragement/affirmation is – the areas of achievement and acceptance. I continue to work on releasing my tendency to Compare & Despair, to hearing expectations (“you should”), and to (over)reacting to others comments/actions.
- Other people’s life choices do not make mine wrong!
- I’m comparing again. Comparing will get me nowhere. Comparison is the thief of joy.
- It’s not about you. Other people’s opinions of you have nothing to do with you. Do not dwell on what they say!
- Stop apologizing for who you are – there are many who love and appreciate your quirky self.
- Let it go for today. And sometimes you just need to let it go altogether!
- Change the should to could! Instead of “I should do it” think, “I could do it.” It all about possibilities and choices.
- I like being at home – I don’t need to escape from anything anymore. (I used to!) I feel such a sense of peace and contentment when I walk in the door.
- In the past, achievements (the checked off to-do list) were taken as a measure of value. It’s time to stop that belief.
I also read a bit about being an accommodator, a trait I’ve always had. We accommodatewhen we put our needs behind the needs of others – when we say “yes, fine” when we want to say “no, I’d rather not”. It was about working on saying no versus yes, to allow your needs to come first. The reality is every yes has a no underneath it, and every no has a yes underneath it. When we say yes to a too-tight deadline or one more project, we say no to time with family and the ability to do our work in a healthy way. When we say no to a night out, we’re also saying yes to a night in with a great book and a bubble bath. I realized that by saying yes and accommodating to others for years, what I was really doing was saying no to myself and the things that were truly important to me. It is a hard habit to break, as I continue to do it unconsciously when I plan something. When I plan, I think about making it fit others needs, sometimes more than my own.
Do you scroll memes, read articles, listen to podcasts? What’s a recent aha you’ve had or quote you recall?
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Love it! I came here looking for content on the topic [Personal Development] because I write a lot about it from my real-life experiences and point of view. The individualism idea/ideology doesn’t exist in the East and in Africa. But I love it!
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Oh gosh I listened to a podcast over @womenlivinvwellafterfifty called “The chocolate bar life”. I thought it was brilliant. I am certain you would enjoy it.
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Hi Pat, speaking of putting yourself first, I hope you guys ‘weathered the storm’ with no property damage. The pictures we saw of the flooding was heartbreaking.
I scroll FB at least once a day, and belong to a few groups that interest me – travel, photography, mahjongg. I enjoy inspirational quotes and Pin those that speak to me on my Pinterest board. It’s fun to scroll through and look for patterns. I find them reflective of my mood and attitude.
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Suzanne, The storm hit me pretty badly emotionally – I’m going to have to figure that out as we are expecting a number of them this season. But we faired well… storm surge was only a couple of feet into the yard. That’s the worry for us – surge, not rainfall. I took time – to veg out and watch the Olympics, to not sorry about blogging (or cooking even!). Hopefully before the next storm comes our way, I’ll have a different plan in place for my mind.
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Pat, I hear you. Malcolm has a mild case of storm anxiety also. It’s real. For a relatively new Floridian like you, I can only imagine how you must suffer. I won’t say I’m jaded, but I do tend to take these things in stride since being hit back to back in 2004. Prepare, be watchful and leave if our safety is in jeopardy – that’s the plan. Take care of yourself and try not to overthink it. Just be safe.
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I was thinking of a bottle of red wine and comfort foods. LOL. Our absolute is if they say mandatory evacuation, we are out of here. I have a prep check list (are you surprised) and did move in my yard art into the garage and moved plants to hopefully prevent them floating away in a surge. It was the storm anxiety while it raged … for over 48 hours, just watching the sea water crash over the sea wall and roll down the street. We were never in jeopardy (for this one). Tim says I just need to let nature be nature and we’ll deal with whatever happens after the fact. Maybe after this year, I’ll get a bit jaded as well…although the next one appears to be heading up the east coast…your neck of the woods.
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Nah, that one will head toward Bermuda.
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I set a reminder: get off after 1hr! But sometimes, I ignore it. I left most groups because they ended up sharing unrelated content. Think about it. When a group is about Personal Development (or it supposed), and people are posting unrelated pictures and videos, or trying to advertise.
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A few weeks ago a blogger I follow who does a lot of running said something that stayed with me. She said: What you’re not changing, you’re choosing. I’d never thought about how being stuck could be considered a choice. It has transformed my thinking.
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Ally, I really like that as well. I was reading recently also about choosing to keep routines, choosing to be comfortable, and not needing to always be striving for the next thing/next level. I struggle with that a bit as I’ve been trained/socialized that if you’re not moving (forward/upward/better), you’re failing/dying!
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Change the “should” to the “could” – that’s me in a nutshell!!
I have this inner BossyNancy that is full of “should”s. I started rephrasing it to “I would like to….”
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My hubby will now calls me out if I use the word should! (Yes, he reads all my blog posts.). It’s a challenge to shift, because we hear it also – in other people’s comments/ questions.
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Hi Pat, I don’t go to FB often anymore because there are SO MANY ADS now 🫤 but I do check on my friend’s posts about once a week. I stumble on occasional memes that I like but I seem to forget them just as quickly (oops)! I really like the one you mentioned about changing ‘should’ to ‘could’…I REALLY need to work on that one!! Your painted blue pot is so cute!!
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Thanks Sharon on the blue pot. It was a craft class and first time I tried to draw a face!
I’ve started saving meme’s I like (save photo) because I’ll want to mention it to someone and then can’t recall the punch-line!
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Lovely to be back reading your blog, Pat. I got too busy this past spring by taking on too much teaching. Lesson learned…hopefully!!! Yes, indeed, being kinder to self and saying no (sometimes ‘no thank-you’) are important practices. Lovely your blue flower pot. So creative!
Note: I’ll subscribe to you blog with my other email (my gmail). I’m leaving this one because Outlook keeps forcing me to update to their new look. Maybe that’s a way of saying No. 🙂
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Welcome back, John!
I’ve been a bit remiss on replying to comments as I dealt with the emotional upheaval of our first hurricane/ tropical storm. We are fine; it was just stressful and I need to figure out how to manage it better. They predict lots of storms this year (climate change?) and the next one is already being talked for next weekend! Maybe the changes I’m proposing to myself will be a “lesson learned” in 2 weeks.
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Hi Pat – great quotes and I can relate to them all (especially about feeling at peace when I come home). I scroll FB regularly – I unfollow anything that isn’t positive or uplifting, so I find it to be a great source of inspirational thoughts (and updates on the few people who still post there!) My blog post today is on a similar theme to yours – all the things I’m unlearning and what I’m replacing them with – we really need to be kinder to ourselves don’t we?
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Speaking of being kinder… Last weekend we had a bad storm come through and my mind-space was frazzled. I decided to not push through things, like blogging, and just allow myself to be. I watched a lot of Olympics and (unfortunately) ate too many “hurricane snacks”. Back now and trying to catch up on comments! I liked that you recognized being kinder to ourselves! I was.
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